Life includes loss. When we experience a loss, we go through the grieving process. Losses range from death-related to a wide range of other occurrences, including the loss of a job, a relationship, a child growing up and moving out of the house, and even our sense of self. It’s critical to realise that suffering from grief and loss can result from losses that disrupt your daily schedule or make it impossible for you to go to work, as well as catastrophic events like death.
During these challenging times that we are going through, grieving and losing someone has become increasingly prevalent. As we deal with these ongoing, multifaceted daily losses, many of us continue to experience highly complex and deep emotions.
The losses we experience can be overcome however. Understanding the grief process and accepting that recovery is highly likely during these trying times are crucial.
If you’re struggling, I’d like to help you take that crucial first step so you can start taking care of yourself.
Here are some tips to help you get better and start healing.
Seeking Support
Because of the reduced lack of human interaction we may be having, reaching out to family and friends through difficult times is incredibly good for both of you. Talking about your feelings will help you acknowledge the weight of grief. These challenging times can make losses seem much harder because we also experience feelings of isolation and loneliness.
There are numerous ways to stay in touch with people even though you can’t see them in person, such as through video chats or messages. This is a great approach to cope with your losses and realise that you are not alone. You will be amazed by the support that family and friends may offer through difficult times, as well as by how much they will experience similar things.
Stop Comparing
Try to remember that your grief journey will be as unique as you are – no one else will experience exactly the same as you are experiencing.
There is no right way or wrong way to grieve – only your way.
So avoid comparing your grief with anyone else’s. You simply cannot compare sadness and loss in the same ways that you can compare quantitative facts like height and weight, despite the fact that it may be natural to want to compare our grief to others’ and how we view their loss experiences. That’s because grief isn’t measurable or objective by nature.
People who have experienced loss frequently engage in the grief-comparison game, which is a competition in which everyone loses.
Connect with Spirituality
It is very typical to feel distant and disconnected from one’s body and environment when someone is grieving a loss. Spirituality can be a helpful way to recover from trauma and regain a sense of reality. You can establish a connection with your mind and deal with the ideas and emotions you are experiencing by engaging in practises like deep breathing and meditation.
This can also entail studying religion and faith in greater detail and considering how you can apply it to your everyday activities. It’s possible to connect with your spirituality amid trying times, and doing so is a wonderful approach to sit with your feelings rather than ignoring or repressing them.
Maintain Hobbies
When you are experiencing strong and conflicting emotions, you may feel completely overwhelmed and lost. When you are unable to maintain a daily schedule, you may feel as though you have lost structure and may develop unhealthy behaviours. Maintaining a connection with your interests and hobbies is crucial because they can make you happy and help you tune out the world around you.
Maintain Physical Health
Maintaining your physical and mental health during grieving is crucial for your emotional stability. Making healthy meal selections rather than grabbing for junk food and comfort foods might improve your mood and help you relax. You may be able to relax as a result and feel less worn out.
There are many other emotions that can be brought on by grief, and frequently we are not ready for them to appear. We can start to recover from the inside out and accept what is by sticking to what we know, maintaining our health, and getting help from others while admitting our intense feelings. Although there are several steps we may take to appropriately recover from any sadness or loss we may be facing, the process is by no means simple.
Take one day at a time
Be your own best friend and drop the self-judgement and self-criticism. Take just one hour or one day at a time – it’s okay to do that.
I remember only being up to take things minute by minute in the most agonising and harrowing days after I lost my husband.
This is a time when you need to allow yourself permission to accept help gracefully from others. Take extra time to nourish your own physical, emotional and spiritual needs. You will get there, one day at a time.
You can reach out to me here and we can have a confidential, free 20 minute chat about where you’re at and howI may be able to support. I’d love to help you ❤️
